Chaplain’s Column

I can remember the tears in her eyes as she watched me walk toward the stage to receive my bachelor’s degree from Savannah State College and my commission to serve in the United States Navy as a supply corps officer. I’m sure she was reflecting on the first day that she dropped me off in the dorm with her eyes once again filled with tears. She probably cried all the way back to Montgomery, Alabama. This is one of the reflections that I often rehearse in my mind when I think of Mother’s Day.

My mother was and continues to be a strong woman who I have the greatest respect for because she never gave up and always persevered. Whenever I think of mom, strength, courage, fearlessness, integrity and compassion immediately come to my mind. My mom Shirley has been a strong role model for my sister and I all of our lives. I watched my mother purchase her own home, rekindle her love for painting, help those in need, comfort those who were saddened and recently retire after serving the state of Alabama for over 20 years. I could not have been blessed with a more caring and loving mother.

I share my story and reflections with the hopes of stirring up your own reflections and memories of your mother. Although our stories may vary in the experiences we have shared with our mothers, I invite you to rehearse the memories of those golden moments you have had with your mother. Remember the times she comforted you when you were hurt. Remember the times she rescued you financially and even sometimes physically. Remember the words that your mother shared with you that gave you hope and inspiration that you could make it during one of your challenging times in life. Whatever you do, remember your mother in a positive light. There will be the appropriate time to address issues and concerns, but allow this Mother’s Day month to focus on the positive.

I know Mother’s Day can also stir up some not so good emotions but I want you to focus on positive memories and experiences you have had with your grandmothers, aunts, friends and mentors. I have enjoyed numerous occasions of many of the women in my home church adopting me as their son. As a result of this occurrence, my life has been greatly enriched. I noticed that each woman in my life has contributed something that I needed along my journey.

I would be remised if I did not acknowledge the wonderful woman in my life who has been a tremendous Mother to our children. My wife; Nila, is such a gift to me and certainly my sons. I honor her for all that she has contributed to our family. She is a powerful example of a loving and caring mother. I’ve always told my boys to look for someone just like their mother.

Finally, I invite you to take the remaining days of this month to express your love and gratitude to those women who have been and continue to be instrumental in your life. Draw from their experiences, their commitment to family and community, their spirituality and their passion. Happy Mother’s Day to all of the women who have made such a powerful impact in the lives of others.